HELP! I HAVE A TEENAGER

Maybe you're carrying a heavy worry for your teen.

Maybe you're wondering if any of this is "normal."

The tools and strategies that previously worked are no longer connecting with your emerging adult. You may see your teen needing support at the exact moment they are turning away from your help. 

Parents and teens invite me into their support teams when they are looking to build tools around specific challenges and choices. When possible, I also work proactively to support the developmental tasks of adolescence.

My approach, informed by leading research and analysis, works to strike a balance between parent and teen goals. While I can't promise change, I do offer the opportunity to deepen awareness, intentionality, and understanding. These experiences typically lead to self-honoring choices and empowerment. 

Your teen wants an ally, advocate, and teacher that is unique to who they are as an individual.  The teens I work with (13 and older) are bright, hard-working, and emotionally aware. They show up ready to work and trust the tool-building process.

Adolescence is a time of enormous possibility, creativity, and learning. It's also a fantastic time to establish healthy coping strategies, build a positive identity, and gain awareness that will empower future direction and success. Why just "survive" the teen years when we could see them thrive?

Seven Tasks of Adolescence

We now know that the way to help a child develop optimally is to help create connections in her brain—her whole brain—that develop skills that lead to better relationships, better mental health, and more meaningful lives... As a result of the words we use and the actions we take, children’s brains will actually change, and be built, as they undergo new experiences.
— Daniel J. Siegel

Myths you might be telling yourself in this moment:


"They just need to pull themselves up by their bootstraps."


I love many things about Texas, but this saying isn't one of them. While it may look like there is a single "problem area" or a determined case of selective hearing, most challenges our teens face are more complicated than we may initially realize. As a safe and trusted ally, I join with teens to discover what factors contribute to both their successes and challenges and build growth from the inside out.


"As a parent, I should be able to "fix" this."


Unless your child arrived in your arms with a step-by-step guide to parenting, this is an unrealistic and nonproductive expectation. Parenting is arguably the hardest thing you'll ever do, and it doesn't have to be done alone. 

We all experience pain and struggle. Your job as a parent is not to spare your child from these moments but to help them learn how to face them. From time to time, we all need to update our tools and strategies. Yet, we don't get all our needs met by a single source.  As a therapist, I won't approach your teen or family as something "broken" that needs "fixing." Instead, my work is to facilitate healing and action through healthy relationships and education that also improves and strengthens family relationships. 


"If we start, my kid will be in therapy forever."


Teens don't end up in my office to stay there forever. They come because they are wanting more - more of what's already going well and more of what could feel better than the present. My goal is to help your family find a space for active dialogue and learning that is uniquely and intentionally designed to serve your needs. I want to send your teen back out into the world to practice what we're discovering at a pace that feels respectful of everyone involved.